Love, Breakups, and Violence
Some men and women will threaten their ex because of a breakup and some will even go as far as killing their ex. I don’t get it. I know some people will walk in your life and betray you so carelessly that you would rather see them dead or as miserable as they made you feel; however, you will double the pain they’ve already caused you by doing something stupid. Why ruin the rest of your life over a person who took you for granted?
The one that gets me the most are those relationships where one party is doing everything they can to remain in a relationship with a person who wants to go his/her separate way. People voluntarily stay in relationships. You’re only doing yourself injustice if you force or threaten them to stay. Violence cannot make a person love you. If anything, it makes them wanna stay as far away from you as possible. Loving someone who won’t love you back is a total waste of time and it’s stupid.
Forced relationships are draining and full of complications that overwhelms both parties emotionally and mentally. Wouldn’t you rather be in a relationship with someone who wants that relationship as much as you do? WTF! Males and females killing each other because of “love”. If you kill or harm someone in the name of love, that ain’t love. That’s wickedness!
Life isn’t fair.
Things doesn’t always go as we expect them to.
You have to learn to let go when certain situations doesn’t turn out as you expected.
Though you thought you would be with that person the first time you met him/her, that was then.
When you’re getting to know a person, it’s the chemistry, the compatibility, the more positive than negative values you find in that person plus more that ultimately makes that person worth your time. You can’t make a lifetime decision based on infatuation at first sight. We all get that feeling in the beginning and get carried away forgetting that we really don’t know this person that well yet. Eventually, the decision to invest more time in that relationship comes as you get to know that person.
Not to forget those who will love you for what you have and not for who you are. These are the kind that will stab you in the back and betray you when you need them the most. They will smile to you face pretending to love you as long as they’re benefitting something from you. If they love you for what you have, here are a few things you need to watch out for:
They will always be that one who will never stop you from doing something whether it’s right or wrong because they want you to feel they got your back.
They will never offer to help you, but they will most certainly comfort you with bunch of attention.
They will bring you gossips about the people who truly love you so they’re the only one in the picture.
They will always be in your face wanting to know what’s going on-it’s that evaluation they do to see if you’re still worth their time.
When you ask them for help that will lead to them giving up something for your sake, they’re always busy.
The best thing anyone can do as they enter any relationship is maintaining the mindset that it is all an experiment and whether it works out or not, it’s not the end of the world. When you enter a relationship with too much tailored plans laid out in your head and things doesn’t work out, you’ll find yourself losing it just because you didn’t see your delusions become reality. Lastly, always be kind to yourself and place some values on your life as a whole. If you don’t enforce what your values are, don’t expect anybody to uphold those values because if those values don’t matter to you, it won’t matter to anybody.